So you got ENGAGED on Valentine's Day!? Congratulations! <3<3
I GOT ENGAGED! POSTING!
Well, I suppose you have already wanted to post to social media! I am sure with the excitement of the engagement you took pictures of the ring, a selfie together, ready to post that to your INSTAGRAM, SNAPCHAT, FACEBOOK...you know, all the good places...with a love quote from your fav song or movie, and a gushing review on how much you love each other! Am I right? Or am I right? "Awesome!" "Congrats!" "Love you two!" "Can't wait for the wedding" all the comments are coming your way! But don't forget to enjoy the moment, maybe wait a day or even two to post. Don't forget to celebrate your happiness with each other and forget about everyone else and social media for just little while!
NOW WHAT DO I DO?
FIRST. Tell your fam! Mom and dad wouldn’t be happy to be the last to know…
GET READY TO PLAN. Religious or not, huge guest list or small, outdoor or indoor ceremony; the choices are all yours and yours alone!
GET READY FOR QUESTIONS. AND LOTS OF THEM. People are nosy. when you start to make it public, have a date in mind (this will eliminate finding new variations of the phrase “we’re not sure yet”).
GET READY TO SPEND SOME MONEY. Set a realistic budget and start saving. Ah, the dreaded financial factors of a wedding. It isn’t fun, but you need money for the wedding of your dreams!
GET READY TO STUDY. Awesome websites like Pinterest make this part easy.
GET READY TO ASK QUESTIONS. No question is a dumb question. As vendors, we have to expect you’ve never done this before, so asking those who have been through it is going to let you skip over some of the messy stuff. Vendor are prepared for questions. They might even have a link to their website or blog with all your questions already answered.
GET READY TO SHOP! Start shopping for your dress long in advance. This is going to help make the day more real, get you more excited, and keep you from stressing later in the game from not knowing what you’ll be wearing when you finally say ‘I do’.
GET READY TO STAY CALM. Everything is going to come together flawlessly if you take your time and plan accordingly. Always remember to compromise with your significant other (this is their day, too), and have fun with each factor of the planning process.
WHAT TO PLAN FIRST?
SET A BUDGET. Having a budget can really help. If you have any family members who are willing to help out, ask them what number they have in mind and take that into consideration when planning. Try to stay within your budget BUT be realistic and NEVER try to "get a good deal" from vendors. Vendors such as Venue, DJ's, Bands, Decorators Florists, Videographers, Photographers, and more...they all have people they can refer you to if they are out of your budget. Most vendors won't be rude and will simply tell you they are out of your price range, they might even have a list of referrals they can send you. So be honest with your budget to everyone you talk to. If there is a way to make make costs less by packaging items or removing stuff from their package, they might work with you BUT never ask someone to lower their price for you.
MAKE A TASK LIST. Now that you have set a budget, make a task list. Decide who is charge of what. Get an idea of who will be in your wedding party, no matter big or small, make sure to delegate tasks to everyone! They will be glad to help...If they aren't maybe they shouldn't be in your wedding party. Remind everyone that weddings aren't just a big party, they can party when the actual party/reception night comes but until then, they are your friends and they should be willing to help as much as possible!
CHOOSE A VENUE. Choosing a venue is one of the most important things and so should be top of the to-do list. The venue is what you will be planning everything around. Location, Number of people that the venue can hold, can you have your ceremony and reception at the same location? All very important things to know first. Once you have that venue and can secure the date that you want, then you will be able to move forward with your planning. Secure your location with a retainer/deposit. Do not wait! You don't want to lose your date!
BOOK YOUR PHOTOGRAPHER! Your photographer is going to be there from the beginning. If you want to send out "Save The Dates" you will want professional pictures to design these around. You will want images for your wedding website, for your facebook, photos of the ring, photos to give to family members, and an image to post in your local newspaper enegement announcements! So many wedding details will involve photographs! Some photographers book as far as 2 years in advance, so if you have one you LOVE, don't wait, or your date might be booked! Book your engagement photos and have fun!
HIRE A WEDDING COORDINATOR! As a vendor I have worked with some amazing wedding planners and coordinators. They really help out on every aspect of the wedding planning and the day of. Hiring a wedding consultant is practical for busy working couples who have less time to spare for the preparations. If the budget is tight, there are also consultants who work by the hour. An outsider’s perspective is beneficial to both the bride and the groom. A lot of brides will say this is not needed and it is "old school" or becoming unnecessary...I tend to HIGHLY disagree. Pay the fee to have someone do a lot of the work for you!
REMEMBER TO NOT STRESS! I am sure you have heard this, but try not to stress, make this time fun! Stay organized so that you don't get overwhelmed! Ask for help!